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discuss Re-marriages after divorces.

This thread focuses on relationships, including communication, dynamics, challenges, advice, and their impact on personal growth and connections.
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I have noticed that in some cultures, marrying a divorcee is looked-down upon, regardless of the gender. In olden days, it was difficult for a divorced woman to find another serious partner for a second marriage, however, now, with all the knowledge and modern developments, divorced men too are finding this a challenge. What do you think may be the reason behind this?
 
In my country, divorced men that are financially stable don't have any difficulty finding another young, never married lady that would marry them. It is divorced women that actually find that difficulty in getting a man to marry them. It gets worse if they had a child in the previous marriage. I think it revolves around men craving to have a less complex life than what a woman in a previous marriage brings.
 
In our country, it is more difficult for women to remarry after divorcee compared to men. However, some of my relatives remarried after divorce and they are living a very good life, even though it was difficult start for them when they remarried due to the stigma associated with remarriage.
 
Remarrying is quite common in the Western world. You pick the person you think you love, go through the honeymoon phase, and that is the last phase before you realize they are a different person. Then, you're stuck with that different person to try and relove them, or to move on to someone else that can fulfill those needs, hopefully for life, but I've seen people get it wrong 3, and even 4 times before settling down in their 40s for the last time.

I wouldn't be opposed to my wife remarrying if I were to die. She deserves to be happy for as long as she lives, and she fulfilled her vows at that point. I just told her that if she ever did, she would lose my pension, so she should vet it out thoroughly if so.
 
Generally, we view divorce as a failure and impossible to get back to such a relationship again
That's an odd way to think about it. Sure, you failed with one person, but that doesn't mean you failed at being married to anyone.

I would look at it more as a job in this instance. You can be fired from one job because you got on the bad side of a manager, but that doesn't mean you don't possess the tools or know-how to do the job, and do it well, under different leadership, guidance, or setting. Of course, marriage as an institution is higher than a job, but it's the best comparison to show that maybe you failed, but rather the partner, or a combination, and you might be better with someone else.
 
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