discuss What is the effect of spoiling people?

[Jason]

My dad was a good man but he spoiled my family (mom included), minus one son, but he felt it was his duty as a man to provide.

Anyway, do you have personal stories of spoiled people?

 

[NatureFreak]

I really don't think it is wrong to spoil family members especially if they deserve it. It shows that family is very important to such a person. However, limit should also be observed.

 

[Augusta]

I think we need to appreciate persons that spoil us in a better way but to make us go astray

 

[eLdavis]

One major issue of spoiling people or over pampering them is that it could lead to them feeling entitled even in situations where they should not.

 

[theearner]

Spoiling people breeds entitlement, making them less resilient and appreciative.

 

[1stop]

One major issue of spoiling people or over pampering them is that it could lead to them feeling entitled even in situations where they should not.

Spoiling people can also retard someone's learning because the persons being spoilt do not learn to be problem-solvers. When all the choices are made for them and everything just falls into place, they may grow up to be impulsive and they may not know how to handle problems and disappointments in their lives.

 

[Fidelia1]

A man that was well to do kept spoiling his son and never allowed the boy do anything. But as life would have it, the man died as the boy turned 11. The boy barely understood anything about how to push in life. He ran into depression and had to be rescued quickly.

 

[Unlocked]

Nothing is more annoying to me than somebody who acts entitled to something, and it's usually because at no stage during their upbringing have they ever been told no or had firm boundaries set. (ie, in some way they've been spoiled)

Also, it's just not good typically for building life skills if everything is given to you and you're not made to want for things. That's just my opinion anyway.

 

[Yama]

In our place it is cultural acceptable for a man to become a provider. In fact, it is even though that men should be a provider. If a man provides for his family, I wouldn't think this as spoiling. However, if the man is providing more and the wife and kids are wasting money that would certainly be spoiling. My dad never did this and I will never do it.

 

[Kross]

One thing about spoiling people unnecessarily is that you don't allow them to face the reality of life and learn mental and physical strength. The truth is that people that are too spoilt with easy life always end up dysfunctional when the spoiler is no more or unable to spoil them any longer.

 

[Shortie]

I have one personal story of a member of my family who was spoiled a lot by my auntie and my grandma from my dad's side. He would always go and stay with them on school holidays to hang out with my cousin and spend time with my grandma and auntie, and would always come back with so much new stuff bought for him. This used to upset my mum a lot as I and my younger brother would, on the odd occasion, go to stay and didn't get much of anything.

 

[Jason]

I'm on guard with budgeting money, because not doing so spoils me or others and when the cash runs out is when the poop hits the fan.

 

[Apsara]

I think spoiling people, like giving excessive gifts or leniency, can foster entitlement and reduce accountability, as I’ve seen with overindulged peers at family gatherings. It may weaken their drive, like neglecting chores at home, and strain relationships when expectations aren’t met.