discuss What did your previous breakup teach you?

[mara]

Breakups are tough, but they often come with powerful lessons.


What did your last breakup teach you—about love, yourself, or life in general? Whether it’s a hard truth you had to face or a newfound perspective that changed you for the better, share your wisdom.



Who knows, your story might just help someone else going through it!

 

[Augusta]

That people can't be trusted and i can do without bad people. So I don't stress myself with people that can't be trusted

 

[eLdavis]

I learnt a lot of things from my previous relationship, one of them was always try to view things from their point of view. Yes I might be right but still try to understand their own opinion.

 

[Zani]

My previous relationship taught me to be patient and not get angry with myself no matter the situation. I even hurt myself in my past relationship whenever I was angry, and that is not what I am proud of right now.

 

[Pearl]

My last relationship taught me not to unnecessarily insecure. That can create so much problems in a relationship and possibly kill it. I was practically messing with the guy's sanity because I was insecure. And he had to leave. And Iost out of everything.

 

[Ja sa bong]

My last relationship taught me never to put all of my expectation on someone because that is how being disappointed is going to choke the life out of you when the person decide to throw everything away.

 

[Shortie]

My previous relationship started off fine but it sooner turned bad. I ended up in a mentally abusive relationship scared to speak up or say anything as I was always told no one would believe me even if I did tell someone.

I eventually couldn't take anymore and spoke up and got the help I needed to get out and have been out of that situation now for just over 10 years.

If anything, that relationship and breakup, it taught me to be cautious, never trust someone so easily, and to know that I can speak up and people will believe me.

 

[Ja sa bong]

My previous relationship started off fine but it sooner turned bad. I ended up in a mentally abusive relationship scared to speak up or say anything as I was always told no one would believe me even if I did tell someone.

I eventually couldn't take anymore and spoke up and got the help I needed to get out and have been out of that situation now for just over 10 years.

If anything, that relationship and breakup, it taught me to be cautious, never trust someone so easily, and to know that I can speak up and people will believe me.

I think there should be a legal punishment for any partner who abused their other half in a relationship. Mental abuse is as deadly as physical abuse but the world isn't taking it very serious.

 

[Shortie]

I think there should be a legal punishment for any partner who abused their other half in a relationship. Mental abuse is as deadly as physical abuse but the world isn't taking it very serious.

I couldn't agree more. I do know that there is now a law in place in the UK, not sure about any other places at this time which Women's Aid had campaigned for years.

The outline of the law is below

In the UK, mental or emotional abuse, specifically coercive and controlling behaviour, is a criminal offense under the Serious Crime Act 2015, and the Domestic Abuse Act 2021 further strengthens the legal framework to address such abuse.

Unfortunately, this was after I had already reported the mental abuse and gotten out of the relationship but I am very glad that it is now a law and now any women who are suffering this kind of abuse can report it, be listened to and the abuser can be punished.

 

[Kross]

My last breakup taught me that I should never wave away red flags in the knowing each other phase of the relationship. This lady was always shouting violently at people in buses, restaurants etc. I waved it away as mere outbursts. And she began doing same to me and even attacking me physically. The red flag was there from day one before we even started dating.

 

[Jason]

I am on the lookout for becoming suckered into a "leading me on" situation. In that case, as I said in another post, a person (male or female) shouldn't get too attached to something that can disappear. That's something taught in Buddhism and Christianity.

 

[Oshawott]

It taught me three important things:

1. Money cannot buy you a relationship or love.
2. Never test your partner.
3. Be open, truthfull and loyal.

 

[King Belieal]

My previous breakup taught me that no one is truly indispensable. No matter how important you might think someone is to you, there would always be a replacement for that person when he or she goes.

 

[Augusta]

Breakup forced me to confront my own vulnerabilities, attachment styles, and relationship patterns.
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