discuss Two female besties. One gets married and the friendship dies. Why?

[Fidelia1]

I have seen this happen over and over again around. Two ladies would be best if friends, sharing a bond that is almost inseparable. But the moment one of them gets married, the friendship starts to strain. And the friendship ultimately dies. Why do ladies that get married struggle to hold on to friendships they had while they were still single?

 

[Dr. A]

I personally do not agree with this observation as a rule. However, yes, such friendships happen too. Luckily my besties though continents apart are still my best buddies despite marriages and despite the fact that we don't spend as much time as we used to. The friendship has certainly not died and the spark and freshness is still present for sure. May be after marriage, the friends circle changes, the responsibilities increase, the routine changes, there are many other things to keep one occupied and priority changes. When common topics do not excite anymore, that's when things start to fade.

 

[Oshawott]

Every friendship gets destroyed because - change in priorities.

Weather we want to acknowledge it or not, marriages are events in your life that fundamentally alters the nature of your interaction with the environment and those inside it. After marriage, your energy gets directed towards your husband/wife and the peer pressure and familial pressure modifies your thinking so that you believe that they are your priority.

Then you have children and then, you know what happens!

 

[Fidelia1]

Anyone that is married has other interests that are different from someone that is still unmarried. They would no longer have common grounds for conversation and shared activities because their experiences just become different overnight. It takes a great deal of effort for a married woman to keep up close friendship with an unmarried person. That's where the bonds start falling apart.

 

[Apsara]

Friendship sometimes fades after marriage due to shifting priorities, time constraints, and new roles. I’ve seen how couples demand attention, unintentionally leaving friends feeling sidelined.

 

[Kosi]

I think the root cause of friendship drifting apart after marriage could be traced down to chats and discussions that created the bond. My sister had two friends in her childhood days, one was always talking about guys, the other was always talking about business. After marriage, the friendship with the firmer scattered while the later is still in existence till today. I think when the purpose of friendship is no longer there, the friendship should be discontinued.

 

[Yama]

When you get married, you start a new life, you build new relationship, you have new responsibilities, and you don't have enough time to hang out with people you used to before marriage. For women, they are also burdened with household chores and they can hardly find time to connect with friends.