discuss Body Shaming

[Yama]

Ever been a victim of body shaming, what did you do, you just ignored it, or fought back? Why do you think body shaming exist? What draws people to criticize how someone looks? Why does it matter how we look, why do you think people undergo extreme limits to look "perfect." Why is there a desire to look "better"?

 

[Ashake]

Seemingly, body shaming arises from the fact that people are required to have some kind of look. They tells us that this is how we should look and if we don’t, then we start to feel bad about ourselves. This makes people feel low and to start doubt themselves. I will never think that way if myself.

 

[Unlocked]

I used to be bullied quite regularly as a teenager for my weight, as I have always been, and probably will always be, quite overweight. Nowadays I don't suffer fools as easily, and will happily stand up for myself if somebody does make a comment, but I wasn't as confident doing so back in my teenage years and occasionally got into trouble when I'd react with craziness.

Nothing grinds my gears more to be honest, especially in relation to young girls. Young girls especially feel such a pressure to look a certain way, and as a man with nieces and sisters (and potentially kids in the future), I'm always happy to give somebody an earful if I catch them being rude or insulting/degrading towards girls in public.

 

[Harsh World]

I find the approach of body shaming to be positive, but a nuanced approach has to be taken with it. I'm not going to call out everyone and just insult them. But, if I get a personal connection with them, I will recommend that they lose weight, not only for themselves, but for those close to them too. And, if they need help with diet planning and exercise, I'll lend my assistance and also show up at the gym for them until they're comfortable to be in their own skin around others until they see the results.

For healthy nonsmokers young- and middle-aged adults who constitute about one-third of American adults, being obese is likely to hasten mortality by 9.44 years.
Source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23404873/

It's selfish of people to give up nearly 10 years of their lives that they could have spent with family just because they chose not to do anything. In saying that, I do understand there are true medical conditions, but it can still be controlled to an extent. I find that a lot of people fall back on "it's a medical condition" to be their truth, when in reality, they never even tried to see if it's possible, or gave up too soon to see the possibility.

Young girls especially feel such a pressure to look a certain way

If anything, this has shifted from an unhealthy Victoria's Secret/VOGUE model look (skinny) from the 90s to 2000s to an unhealthy "thicc" look onward from 2015ish, purely from observation of peer pressure. This new thicc look can easily get them on the fast track to obesity if it's not controlled by weight lifting for muscular size and only the addition of primarily fat with the little extra muscle needed to carry it.

 

[Vilgefortz]

It's not bad by default because giving advise to people you like/love that they are either too skiny or overweight is good for them. Insulting others is not good. But also, we must be aware that we should not accept what someone's agenda is trying to push down our throats. If somebody is fat, and he/she tells me it's a normal thing, I will not agree with them. You can't force me to celebrate you being fat or find it wonderful and okay.

 

[Heatman]

If I'm giving you an advice on how to stay healthy, it's not even called body shaming as long as I put out my advice in a good and respectful manner.

Insulting someone because of how they look or how they are is an exact opposite. This is wrong. Sometime, this works against those whom are being talked to in that manner.

 

[Liam]

It's not bad by default because giving advise to people you like/love that they are either too skiny or overweight is good for them. Insulting others is not good. But also, we must be aware that we should not accept what someone's agenda is trying to push down our throats. If somebody is fat, and he/she tells me it's a normal thing, I will not agree with them. You can't force me to celebrate you being fat or find it wonderful and okay.

One need to consider that while discussing the issues related to health and weight, one need to be polite so that we do not offend the other. It is important to accept other people without discriminating against them or stigmatizing them.

 

[ActionAce]

If I'm giving you an advice on how to stay healthy, it's not even called body shaming as long as I put out my advice in a good and respectful manner.

Insulting someone because of how they look or how they are is an exact opposite. This is wrong. Sometime, this works against those whom are being talked to in that manner.

That's a great point. Body shaming is a process where one degrades, scolds or jokes around another person due to body shape or size, this is not nice and does not help anybody

 

[Vilgefortz]

One need to consider that while discussing the issues related to health and weight, one need to be polite so that we do not offend the other. It is important to accept other people without discriminating against them or stigmatizing them.

That's understandable, but also one must judge somebody if he is promoting unhealthy way of life. It's okay to be fat, it's okay to have plus size models. No, it's not. Promoting unhealthy lifestyle. Garbage.

 

[Rey619]

i really hate people that do this

 

[Ashake]

That's understandable, but also one must judge somebody if he is promoting unhealthy way of life. It's okay to be fat, it's okay to have plus size models. No, it's not. Promoting unhealthy lifestyle. Garbage.

While it is right that people might be influenced to adopt unhealthy lifestyles, it is equally wrong for one to body shame, or criticize people for their size or weight. That is why, it is more important to encourage people to live healthy life by healthy eating and exercising.

 

[Vilgefortz]

While it is right that people might be influenced to adopt unhealthy lifestyles, it is equally wrong for one to body shame, or criticize people for their size or weight. That is why, it is more important to encourage people to live healthy life by healthy eating and exercising.

I am not saying you should tell somebody: You are fat, get in shape.
I am talking about saying: Hey, buddy your weigh is not good for your health, how about we hit gym together?

But if somebody is like: It's okay to be fat (and he doesn't have any medical condition making him/her fat) then I would argue with such dumb comment.

 

[Alamson]

I am not saying you should tell somebody: You are fat, get in shape.
I am talking about saying: Hey, buddy your weigh is not good for your health, how about we hit gym together?

But if somebody is like: It's okay to be fat (and he doesn't have any medical condition making him/her fat) then I would argue with such dumb comment.

Comments about people's bodies are unnecessary. They could cause more harm than good. Please be positive about your appearance and size; don't allow anyone drive you into depression.

 

[King Belieal]

This my post might seem unpopular and seemingly controversial in relation to this topic. But in my country and culture, body shaming is part of lifestyle. So much that people don't even get angry or feel bad at being body shamed. Even your parents would body shame you. It is not uncommon to hear a mom tell her child that delayed in running an errand, "you are slow because you have eaten too much and become too fat like a pig". The child takes no offence and doesn't feel bad. Maybe we have developed mental resistance to that growing up.

 

[Reelz]

Comments about people's bodies are unnecessary. They could cause more harm than good. Please be positive about your appearance and size; don't allow anyone drive you into depression.

Negative comments against the size, shape, and the colour of the outer skin should not be allowed in our society. No one should be discriminated because of their size and shape everybody must be treated kindly. It has become important to look for the positive in situations and people and especially not to bring each other down.

 

[Vilgefortz]

Comments about people's bodies are unnecessary. They could cause more harm than good. Please be positive about your appearance and size; don't allow anyone drive you into depression.

Modern generation of weak man, that's where we are right now. Everyone is getting offended for the most ridiculous reasons possible. "Oh, you misspronounced me, I will cry now". "Oh no, you stated the obvious and now I will cry because I am unable to handle the reality and accept it as it is".

As I said, soft and weak generation, wouldn't last one day in war.

 

[Fidelia1]

I don't think people should be allowed to body shame others. Some people might not be in that physical condition by their own doing and they would be highly traumatised if they are shamed with that condition. It is a matter of being humane.

 

[Harsh World]

It is a matter of being humane.

You can still body shame and be humane. You should genuinely be concerned about the well-being of those close to you.

Approach the situation with empathy, letting them know how much they mean to you, and help them make a change if you can't see them being able to on their own.

As far as body shaming someone random, it's really none of your business.

That's where I stand, at least.

 

[Oshawott]

I am usually fine with people telling me that I have grown fat. I always consider it as a cue to reduce my tummy.

However, I will retaliate heavily if its because of cosmetic concerns, because you never know what happens with another person. People could be fat because of health reasons, genetics or even because one cannot afford to have healthy food (junk food is sometimes cheaper than the healthy foods).

When someone tries to insult me about my body, I return back the comment by asking 'How important do you think your opinion is?'.

 

[Harsh World]

or even because one cannot afford to have healthy food (junk food is sometimes cheaper than the healthy foods).

If this is the only factor, it comes down to CICO, or, Calories In/Calories Out. They can consume as many unhealthy foods as they want for as long as they exceed the calories coming in with exercise combined with their natural metabolic rate.

I will sometimes lose fat, while trying to gain fat and muscle on a bulk, eating 6+ cheeseburgers a day, entire pizzas, etc., and anything else high in calories to achieve my goal, but sometimes fall short of not getting enough calories in my diet, thus the fat loss.

 

[Oshawott]

It is also more about the quality of calories too.

For example, one would not gain weight if you have the same calories in the form of a juice compared to the same amount it solid form. I read about this in a book called 'How Not to Diet'.

Despite all this, body shaming is still out of the scene.