discuss Would you ever allow your partner to be friend with their ex?

[lens]

Do you permit your partner to keep friendship ties with their ex? Based on my way of thinking, I believe all relationships should completely end after breaking up. I have witnessed it and I'm sure it is never an experience you would ever pray for.

My partner maintains a long-term friendship with her previous partner and that induces a lot of negative thoughts. She tells me their friendship remains just as mere friends yet I still have concerns about it.

I expressed my concern to her about this issue but received only criticism for being untrustworthy. So,.I decided to stop been overbearing. What would you do in such situation?

 

[ActionAce]

The feeling of uncertainty that I had over my partner's relationship with an ex became very stressful for both us. The friendship between my partner and his ex became a condition that I could no longer accept in our relationship. It makes me feel doubtful about my importance.

Every relationship requires putting your emotional comfort first therefore you should draw clear boundaries whenever friendship with an ex becomes unhealthy.

 

[Reelz]

People can maintain ex-friendship relationships and I do not think it should jeopardize their integrity in their current relationships.

If you had a candid communication with your partner, you can discuss your emotions and worries about the situation. What I means is - both partners should confront the insecurity issues about friendship between their exes in order to resolve these emotions mutually.

They will only trust each other when they have a shared commitment to respect one another and to have understanding.

 

[Ja sa bong]

It is not possible to allow my partner to still be friends with her ex-boyfriend. It is either she move on completely from her ex or I walk away from her life permanently and look for someone who is going to be loyal to only me.

 

[Yama]

It is not my decision to let her be friend or not, it should be hers and she should be aware whether this is appropriate or not. Sometimes crossing path with old flames can be dangerous.

 

[NatureFreak]

I can't allow that. What exactly are you looking for that you are still close friends with your ex? It simply means you are finding it hard to move on from him.

 

[Shortie]

I can understand why the thought of allowing your partner to still be friends with their ex could be worrying, you have got to think that at some point there was a connection between them and even though they did split up, has that same connection gone altogether or could it spark again?

I would be weary allowing my partner to still be friends with their ex and it would constantly be on my mind worrying about whether I had made the right decision or if I could have caused an issue allowing it.

 

[Ja sa bong]

It is not my decision to let her be friend or not, it should be hers and she should be aware whether this is appropriate or not. Sometimes crossing path with old flames can be dangerous.

It's very dangerous to the new relationship. 99% of the time, the so called ex will find it easy to start having sex again with the ex girlfriend or boyfriend if they are still friends and keep close contact.

 

[Ashake]

The feeling of uncertainty that I had over my partner's relationship with an ex became very stressful for both us.

It's really a tough one because I have been in a similar situation before. To navigate the challenges is no easy fit at all. Ultimately, it boils down to trust and communication. The question is; do you trust your partner to maintain healthy boundaries with their ex? If your answer is NO, then you need to talk it out with your partner.

It is not my decision to let her be friend or not, it should be hers and she should be aware whether this is appropriate or not. Sometimes crossing path with old flames can be dangerous.

Maintaining open and honest communication is the way out. Based on my experience, having conversation about boundaries, especially when it has to do with friendship with exes, it can help to prevent any misunderstanding. This means that communication is key in navigating this situation.

I can understand why the thought of allowing your partner to still be friends with their ex could be worrying, you have got to think that at some point there was a connection between them and even though they did split up, has that same connection gone altogether or could it spark again?

That is another good point right there! There are possibilities of rekindling old connections. In that case, it is important to look into the emotional maturity of all the parties involved. You need to know if it is just a platonic relationship and ascertain if it's really going to work or not. But if there are some kind of unresolved feelings, it can be a recipe for disaster.

 

[Kross]

As far as the relationship is not close enough to be a threat to our relationship, I don't have any challenges with my partner being friends with an ex. I can't come and tell my partner to lock out people she had known before I came into the picture because we are in a relationship.

 

[Niyi Brixx]

I don't want my partner being close to her ex. It would take a very little thing for feelings to rise up again between them. My partner should never be talking with her ex everyday. They can be distant friends. That's fine.

 

[Apsara]

I’d allow my partner to be friends with their ex if there’s mutual trust and clear boundaries, like open chats about their meetups at a local café.

 

[Fidelia1]

Maybe my partner and his ex have a deal that they do together, I would agree for them to keep talking and that would be open to much scrutiny. Talk more of being just friends with your ex, it won't work with me. You check up on your ex maybe once in three months because you must not create enmity with your ex. But you can't be friends with your ex and you guys talk everyday.