discuss Were you forced to say "I love you"?

[Ashake]

I'm just so keen to know how many among us have had that thing about falling in love out of politeness. I was dating this person, and everything was beautiful until he said he loved me. He loved me; I didn't love him back, but I felt like I was hurting his feelings. Now I feel a little pressured to say it. So, did this happen to anyone?

 

[Ja sa bong]

Ladies do this more often in a relationship. You're not supposed to be in a relationship trying to force things or yourself on any man. If the feelings doesn't come naturally, leave the relationship.

 

[Unvarnished]

I guess I will have a way out of such by saying: "I really care for you and am feeling strongly about us, but I need some time to think more about my feelings. With such statements , you would be honest and also allow yourself time to sort out how you really feel.

Trust me, better off being straight and honest than for one of you to be dragged into something which probably isn't real in one way or the other.

 

[ActionAce]

Trust me, I have been through the same thing. There can be just a moment where the hurtful truth comes out. It's always better to let your partner know that you really are not that keen on him. Why would you want to create an uncomfortable situation now only to lead a poor fellow on and hurt him much later?

 

[Starmix25]

No, it didn't happen to me. Once someone says he loves me, I will also answer I don't love him. Love is not a toy .

 

[Jason]

That kind of stuff is a grey zone. I don't try to take this "love or not love" stuff to heart because it's difficult to pinpoint what people are really feeling. Anyway, from a guy's perspective, it's better to have her say it first, out of a free-will.

And, of course, I find this silly from political perspective, because nowadays Trump wants "I love You." from Canada, when 90 percent of them don't want to join the US.

 

[Reelz]

I have been there. Trust me when I say "I love you" without meaning it, I just want to appease that person and will lead to hurt feelings in the future. So one should be honest and mature about it. You don't have to create any false hopes for anyone. Just say it as it is.

 

[Demon_skeith]

If you are forced to say that, then something isn't right and need to get out of that relationship.

 

[Shortie]

I can't say I have ever been in a situation where I have felt forced to say I love you to someone. If I am in a relationship, I am in it because I want to be and if the same feelings are not there, then I would simply tell them and walk away.

 

[Cpvr]

I'm just so keen to know how many among us have had that thing about falling in love out of politeness. I was dating this person, and everything was beautiful until he said he loved me. He loved me; I didn't love him back, but I felt like I was hurting his feelings. Now I feel a little pressured to say it. So, did this happen to anyone?

I’ve never been forced to say I love you nor pressured to say it.
That’s weird.

That relationship is toxic and should be avoided at all costs. Nobody should be forced to do anything that they don’t do mean.

If you don’t mean it, then don’t say it. Love is true, love is kind, love is genuine.

 

[Starmix25]

If the feeling is mutual, there is no need for me to say to the person that I love him too. It could also be sensed if the person's feelings is legit. Why not try he he.

 

[Jason]

I will always love my wife, but that doesn't mean romantic attraction.

 

[Starmix25]

If someone forces me to say I love you to him, he will regret. I might get mad at the person. Love cannot be forced and cannot be bought.

 

[Yama]

I have never forced to say I love you and I have always said I love you from my heart. However, the context for saying this can be different, for instance when I say I love you to my kid or spouse and to my employer, they mean different things.

 

[Jason]

I love you is such baloney. The real way to say it is by action. Well, even Jesus says that in the Bible.

 

[Ja sa bong]

If you are forced to say that, then something isn't right and need to get out of that relationship.

100% right! Feelings and emotions can never be forced in a relationship. When it doesn't come naturally, there is no need to still be in that relationship for the next one second.

 

[King Belieal]

I have experienced this when I was a player in romantic affairs. So many ladies that I wooed that fell in love with me would express how much they love me either on phone or in a physical meeting. I am obligated to say that I love them so that they don't get hurt. And I said it even though it was a lie. The one that I was sincere enough to reply her that I didn't love her broke down in tears in public and made me embarrassed.

 

[Fidelia1]

When I tell someone that I love them, I always mean it sincerely. That is why I don't brandish that expression to every human that I meet. I can be in a relationship with someone for months without telling him I love him. That's because I am still trying to ascertain what I feel. No one can coerce me to say I love you to them.